5 steps to help you control your feelings and make your relationship fun

If you have been in a relationship then you know that controlling your emotions is an important aspect of living in the moment.Do you live in the moment or in the future?Do you like to do  things right away or later?I had a friend who liked to do everything later.On his wedding day,he got so backed up on the things he had postponed doing,that he ended up getting to his wedding in the middle of his own mass.

His wife was so angry and disappointed   by his behavior that everybody predicted that their marriage would not last even 6months.Well ,surprise,surprise .....16 years later,they are still best of friends and still married.So how did Rita ,the bride in this story do it?


I asked her and she said she did it by using the following  5 steps to control her emotions;


1, Move on.

  Do not stay stuck to past or use all energy holding unto the past.On her wedding day ,she decided to move past the late arrival and concentrate on enjoying the moment.She did not even ask Jimmy her husband ,why he came late.

2, Forgive

Each her feelings or emotions were hurt,she let him know without becoming judgmental . She went a step further and forgive him ,without taking every future opportunity of his mistakes to remind him of his errors.

3 Praying

They always found a way to pray together as a family,even on the days they  were really mad at each other.  They said it helped to remind them of their mortality and the need to be truthful to each other ,especially their to treat each other with dignity.

4 Work as  Team

They always found a way to remind each other of their anniversaries without trying to see if one person would forget.She saw herself as a team with her husband and made him come to appreciate more that in some situations they had put their differences aside and work as a team.

5 Find time to play as a family.

It does not have to be fancy,it can  be something as simple as going to the city park with the whole
family on Sundays.You can bring water,  fruits and vegetables as something to snack for the whole  family while everybody  ,relaxes and plays.

Rita said doing these steps as frequently as she could ,eventually led them to become even better friends then they anticipated. She said it helped her to make her relationship fun.

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