Know yourself so you can love better.

Most of the time we seek to improve because we are not happy with our situation or circumstances in life.One of such circumstances may be our relationship with ourselves or others.As one of my friends said in his Facebook posting being in love can be complicated.

Of course we could take the shot gun approach and work out on  a difficult or complicated relationships or we could take our time and try to make things right.However the first  step in this process can be  quite painful because it involves turning the light on ourselves.We need to know ourselves so we can love better.

To do this we need to understand ourselves and begin our journey of transformation.One of the things we need to remember is that nobody has been able to completely change themselves to the person they want to be.We need to be patient with our selves because there is always a difference between the principles we profess and what we actually do.

Have you succeeded  in transforming yourself?Probably not.Why are you surprised to find out that the same holds true for others? Why are you surprised to find out that your spouse,boyfriend or girlfriend still has faults?

I think one of the reasons we fail to see our own faults but that of others is because of our personality blind spots.Just like in the blind spot of a seeing eye is not seen by that eye though it is open,so do we fail to see our own imperfections.

Keeping this in mind will help us to be less critical of ourselves and others.If we want to change others and make our relationships better we need to start by changing ourselves first.We could start by cutting down on arguments and being more patient with ourselves.

Arguments only raise our passions  and emotions negatively.Believe you me unless we learn how to maintain our emotional balance,we cannot change our circumstances or situation.To really change we need to focus on one  aspect of  our  behavior at a time.

The less time we spend  complaining and blaming others .the more time we can put into speaking more positively ourselves and others.Know your self so that can love better.

One of the best ways to know more about ourselves and others is to ask questions.Click on Questions that help couples to get even more out of your relationships.