If you are in a long term relationship ,you would have noticed that your spouse is not prince charming every day.This is something we see every day through the events we hear on the news or read in the newspapers or online.How can you then love an imperfect man?
The first step towards loving your man despite his imperfections is to remember that much as you may think your are great or wonderful, it is important to remember that we all have our flaws.This is not an excuse for obnoxious behavior from some like emotional and physical abuse.
The kind of imperfections I am taking about include things like being late for appointments,dates or shows .This is annoying but one easy way to deal with this is to be creative with your dates and time.If for example you need to be at a show at 2 O'clock tell your chronically late husband that they time for the show is 1 O'clock.By the time he bungles his way getting at around 1.40 pm ,you will still have 20 mins to make on time instead of being 30 mins late as would have happened in the past.
The other way to deal with imperfections is to fight fair.If a bad behavior annoys you,state it.Do not pretend it did not happen,however do not spend the next 40 minutes telling your husband all the things he had failed to do right since you married him 15 years ago.
You may feel good having told off your husband but he is not going to feel good about you or the fight you have just had.It isn't really fair to bring all the past errors into the moment.Stick to what is not going right this point in time and your husband will more than willing to be apologetic
This will give you a small victory; you can always build on for the future.I wish I could tell you this will end all future misunderstandings; or quarrels ,but it won't.This will only give; you an insight into what will work for both of you in the future.
The final jigsaw in the puzzle of loving your imperfect man is forgiveness.Forgive him his errors so that he can grow into the loving man you married,who can also forgive you in the future.Remember ,what goes around comes around.
If you and your imperfect man are at the point of not making up,read the magic of making up to find the ways to make up.
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