Infidelity:A reason why some mess up or leave their families

I do not know the full psychological explanation for infidelity,but  it is almost as if  men have a need to prove in their middle age they are still sexy by showing that pretty young girls still find them appealing.As a result of this attraction to much younger girls,older men abandon their wives with whom they have raised their kids for these young beauties.It is almost like a trophy to male virility.It is a way of saying "I still have it after all these years".

By pretty young girls, I mean girls above 18 years of age being sought after by men in their forties(40s) and fifties(50s). Whatever happened to good win getting better with time. Since infidelity is related to the sexual drive, it is a passion that is difficult for most people to overcome. This is why it is good to avoid occasions of temptation. Find fun things to do with your wife and leave other women alone. Older men need to remember that such girls are simply there for the money.

The sad part is that in addition to using the excuse of tapping into the fountain of youth by marrying such girls,some  men go as far as making disparaging remarks about their wives as being too old and  not quite as attractive as before.This their way of justifying  their infidelity and then conveniently forgetting  that every body is getting older.They see signs of old age in their wives and generously over look their bald heads and sagging bellies.

Men who think like this,are probably not deserving of their wives to start with and only use age as an excuse for finally leaving their families.Their underlying problem is their inability to manage their own mid-life crisis and the reality of their own mortality.One of the ways they try to deal with such fears and insecurities is to declare themselves young at heart ,with marriage to younger girls as proof that they are young since young people still find them attractive.

This type of a situation is very challenging for any couple that wants to make their relationship better. However, most of this type of problem took years to build up, so it will not simply go away . If both parties are still interested in  making their relationships better, then first step will be for husband and wife to have an  honest conversation about where they are in their relationship and what they can do to make things better.

Avoiding the blame game would help a lot.It is also important to remember that talking and sharing is the key to better relationships .