location-a reason relationships end

Location can be a reason why some relationships end.This is because no many people find it difficult to keep the flame of love glowing across the Atlantic ocean.This is just an example of a long distance relationship.It doesn't have to be across the Atlantic ocean to have for location to be a factor.

Two lovers could be in the same city and be seperated by  a  prison wall.It is difficult to keep in touch when one may  be behind bars with limited access to visitors and the other person is outside struggling to make ends meet or dealing with the daily temptations that comes with freedom.Out of sight is out of mind ,unless you find ways to keep each other emotionally connected.

If you lived together with your spouse you could always find things to do together like go to the movies,go to the restaurants or even go to  theme parks with family which can help keep you emotionally connected,when you live in different parts of the country,everything becomes more challenging.You are limited to keeping in touch through phone calls ,texting or internet connections.Though these may help ,they are no substitutes for holding hands together and sharing your feelings.

I know of a friend who loved his girlfriend dearly before he traveled outside the country.Initially he called every day on the phone ,then it became weekly ,then monthly ,then when ever possible.Once I found out my friend called his beloved only 'when ever possible', I knew their relationship was in trouble.Not long after wards they broke up.

If you have a really good relationship  and one of you has to relocate on account of job demands ,I am sure you will not like to end up like my friend.Those ,who have been able to avoid the location pitfall in relationships tell me that what they did was keep in touch regularly by any means available,including phone calls and text messages.They also sent each other  surprise gifts  and took advantage of every holiday or break at work to visit each other.

They said it was a lot of hard work but in the end it made their relationship more romantic .How did they do it? Instead of allowing location to lead to the end of their relationship,they used their different locations to make things  more unpredictable and exciting,this put the spice back in their love lives.

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Imperfections-reasons men leave their families

One of the reasons men leave their families is that they are constantly reminded of their imperfections and failure.Can you imagine ,how you would feel if every time you shared an idea with your spouse ,it was shot down as one more stupid idea from you.

This is followed by a tirade on  your imperfections and how marrying you has been  one of the worst decisions of their lives.Do not even try to explain that .Every attempt at trying to explain is seen as an exercise in excuse making.If this continues for a sustained period of time ,there is one way for the relationship to go.It will without doubt go South.

Most men do not have the psychological skill to know that sometimes those imperfection- based attacks are a sign of hunger for emotional engagement between spouses and react immediately to such tirades with an attack of their own.This is because most men believe that an attack is the best form of  defence.

This kind of thinking prevents couples from finding out the underlying emotional and communications problems which can only be resolved by a more open discussion.

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How Finances can Affect your Relationships

Everybody says that money cannot buy happiness but we also know that it cannot buy sadness either.Of course how we relate to money can lead to either sadness or joy in our relationships.

However if you are in a relationship  where money is so tight, that the ability to buy food daily is a hassle then be prepared to deal with a lot of arguments and frustrations due to increased emotional tension .This situation is made worse by one  spouse working and the other not working or spending a lot of time just watching TV.

If the working spouse is convinced that the other person is not doing all she or he can to make things better,then the dimension of trust becomes part of relationship equation.This is usually dangerous.No relationship can survive for along time without trust.Mistrust will lead  to a tendency to double check everything your spouse does.This  will ultimately lead to a loss of intimacy.

If you think about it ,this is not really surprising .Are you prepared to hug a person you do not trust?I would probably hug such a person reluctantly.But I am sure,I shall not be giving that person a deep warm hug.This is because it is difficult open your heart to some one you do not trust.Once this happens the emotional disruption that follows will lead to more cycles of anger and  heated arguments.

This is just one of the ways poor finances can affect your relationship.The funny thing though is that even in relationships with  adequate  finances, how the money is spent can still lead to problems.In this case one spouse,may either feel that he or she is not involved in the decision making process or not allowed enough autonomy to make financial decisions.Either thought process will result in resentment which can very easily to open confrontations.

It is easy to see that finances one way or another can affect the relationships of both the rich and the poor.However ,the key to reducing emotional tension related to financial issues is to be more open with your thoughts,plans,expectations and worries.This  will help foster greater understanding and love in your relationships.


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