It is always important to remember that dating is not a game. Whether you enjoy dating or find it difficult, you have to remember that it involves dealing with emotions.Emotions are like fire,the can cook for you or burn down the house.So, much as you know that if you are ever going to find the one person who can be the love of your life , you have to date one way or another. So, here is some good advice for you.
The first thing to remember is that girls are not boys.What you consider funny they may consider gross.
They may not think it is funny to make noises by placing your hands over your mouth like if you just farted.It is not funny to pull off your shirt and try to lick your armpit. Even if they have had too much to drink, they don’t like this. Do not set your self up for failure.
The second thing to remember do not think it is cool to tell stories about your previous exploits.Would you like to hear her own previous stories with the minute details?My guess is know.In that case treat your date the respect you would like to be treated. They do not want to know about the blonde who had nothing to say but had the most amazing body ever created. Nor do they think it is awesome to have their guy greeted by every lady in the restaurant. Take your date to a different place just to be on the safe side and do not mention your previous relationships..
The third thing to remember is to show up on time.It is rude to keep you date waiting or fail to show at all.By being there on time ,you say with more than words to your girl that she is very important to you.Trust me every body wants to be treated with respect and dignity.No matter what,do not be late.If you cannot help it,call ahead of time and explain.
The fourth thing to remember is that most girls would be happy to see you looking good.. They do not like to see you show up at their door in your dirty old jeans with a cheap fast food in your hand. Trust me on this one. Maybe later – way later, like after the kids have grown up – it will be okay for this kind of slip of the mind to happen. But for now, please, guys:shave and look good ,let your date know that she means something to you.
The fifth thing to remember is that your girl will not be impressed with how cheap you are. She will not not love it when you pull out buy-one-get-one-free coupons at the restaurant cash register. There is nothing wrong with a bargain, especially in these tough economic times, but use those freebies when you go out with your dad ,if you ever do that.May be your friends will admire your smarts if you do that, but don't give your date the impression that she is not worth that much.
The sixth thing remember is that girls may not find burping and peeing contests hilariously interesting and entertaining. Who can come up with most-silent-but-most-deadly one without any prior warning is nothing to be proud of, according to most girls.Their might be a few who will even to show can equally deadly farts. Trust me,these kind of girls are few and far between.Why would girl be interested in who can pee the longest?
Remembering the six most important things to remember about dating girls will take you farther than anything else you could have planned when it comes to having a great time on your dates. This is because actions based on the wrong premise are bound to fail.while it is important to be natural,it is also important to give each other time to get to be together.If you are simply too gross or loud on your first date,you probably won't be getting new ones with that same girl.
“Be yourself,” is a good advice up to an extent. If being yourself includes any of the forbidden behavior in the six most important things to remember when dating girls list, don’t be yourself. Be better. Remember these six most important things about dating girls and have a great time finding the love of your life.Remember dating is not a game.
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Sunday, October 31, 2010
Friday, October 15, 2010
Know yourself so you can love better.
Most of the time we seek to improve because we are not happy with our situation or circumstances in life.One of such circumstances may be our relationship with ourselves or others.As one of my friends said in his Facebook posting being in love can be complicated.
Of course we could take the shot gun approach and work out on a difficult or complicated relationships or we could take our time and try to make things right.However the first step in this process can be quite painful because it involves turning the light on ourselves.We need to know ourselves so we can love better.
To do this we need to understand ourselves and begin our journey of transformation.One of the things we need to remember is that nobody has been able to completely change themselves to the person they want to be.We need to be patient with our selves because there is always a difference between the principles we profess and what we actually do.
Have you succeeded in transforming yourself?Probably not.Why are you surprised to find out that the same holds true for others? Why are you surprised to find out that your spouse,boyfriend or girlfriend still has faults?
I think one of the reasons we fail to see our own faults but that of others is because of our personality blind spots.Just like in the blind spot of a seeing eye is not seen by that eye though it is open,so do we fail to see our own imperfections.
Keeping this in mind will help us to be less critical of ourselves and others.If we want to change others and make our relationships better we need to start by changing ourselves first.We could start by cutting down on arguments and being more patient with ourselves.
Arguments only raise our passions and emotions negatively.Believe you me unless we learn how to maintain our emotional balance,we cannot change our circumstances or situation.To really change we need to focus on one aspect of our behavior at a time.
The less time we spend complaining and blaming others .the more time we can put into speaking more positively ourselves and others.Know your self so that can love better.
One of the best ways to know more about ourselves and others is to ask questions.Click on Questions that help couples to get even more out of your relationships.
Of course we could take the shot gun approach and work out on a difficult or complicated relationships or we could take our time and try to make things right.However the first step in this process can be quite painful because it involves turning the light on ourselves.We need to know ourselves so we can love better.
To do this we need to understand ourselves and begin our journey of transformation.One of the things we need to remember is that nobody has been able to completely change themselves to the person they want to be.We need to be patient with our selves because there is always a difference between the principles we profess and what we actually do.
Have you succeeded in transforming yourself?Probably not.Why are you surprised to find out that the same holds true for others? Why are you surprised to find out that your spouse,boyfriend or girlfriend still has faults?
I think one of the reasons we fail to see our own faults but that of others is because of our personality blind spots.Just like in the blind spot of a seeing eye is not seen by that eye though it is open,so do we fail to see our own imperfections.
Keeping this in mind will help us to be less critical of ourselves and others.If we want to change others and make our relationships better we need to start by changing ourselves first.We could start by cutting down on arguments and being more patient with ourselves.
Arguments only raise our passions and emotions negatively.Believe you me unless we learn how to maintain our emotional balance,we cannot change our circumstances or situation.To really change we need to focus on one aspect of our behavior at a time.
The less time we spend complaining and blaming others .the more time we can put into speaking more positively ourselves and others.Know your self so that can love better.
One of the best ways to know more about ourselves and others is to ask questions.Click on Questions that help couples to get even more out of your relationships.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
How to make up with letters or Notes
Writing letters or notes is one of the ways we can let others know how we feel about them.These days people do not write too many letters or notes any more.They just text or e-mail our loved ones.
However,there is something about letters that make them stand out. One reason is that writing letters requires a lot more thought,energy and time than texting or e mails.This is precisely why letter writing or writing poems is one of the best ways to make up after a break up.
This allows you to gather your thoughts and talk to yourself.Self talk is very important for emotional clarity.First of all tell yourself what you feel about the situation or circumstance in your relationship.Why are things not as good as you would like them to be?Why are thinking of breaking up?Is it because of lack of understanding?Is it because of constant criticism?
Write a letter,note or poem to yourself answering these questions.Tell yourself your own explanations for this situation.Be honest with your feelings and your role in these disagreements.This will help you get over your own emotional hurdles then you can write your loved one and tell hm or her how much they mean to you.
Remember if you are not sincere ,telling your loved one he or she is an angel ,won't cut it.It will just seem phony.
Another reason I encourage notes after a fight is that weeks later it gives you a snap shot of your feelings and reactions during a fight.This will help you learn emotional lessons.It will help you learn when to speak and when to listen .This will certainly be a great help when next you have a disagreement.
Yes next time!One of the keys to having a happy relationship not dominated by stress,is to find ways to disagree without getting into a fight.Writing letters,notes and poems will be a great help.Just do it.!
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However,there is something about letters that make them stand out. One reason is that writing letters requires a lot more thought,energy and time than texting or e mails.This is precisely why letter writing or writing poems is one of the best ways to make up after a break up.
This allows you to gather your thoughts and talk to yourself.Self talk is very important for emotional clarity.First of all tell yourself what you feel about the situation or circumstance in your relationship.Why are things not as good as you would like them to be?Why are thinking of breaking up?Is it because of lack of understanding?Is it because of constant criticism?
Write a letter,note or poem to yourself answering these questions.Tell yourself your own explanations for this situation.Be honest with your feelings and your role in these disagreements.This will help you get over your own emotional hurdles then you can write your loved one and tell hm or her how much they mean to you.
Remember if you are not sincere ,telling your loved one he or she is an angel ,won't cut it.It will just seem phony.
Another reason I encourage notes after a fight is that weeks later it gives you a snap shot of your feelings and reactions during a fight.This will help you learn emotional lessons.It will help you learn when to speak and when to listen .This will certainly be a great help when next you have a disagreement.
Yes next time!One of the keys to having a happy relationship not dominated by stress,is to find ways to disagree without getting into a fight.Writing letters,notes and poems will be a great help.Just do it.!
Visit The relationship mending system to find out even more ways to revive and enjoy your relationships.
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